If you have ever felt the call to help others in a very special way, then becoming a surrogate for a friend may be the perfect path for you. Surrogacy is a unique opportunity to make a lifelong difference in someone else’s life. By carrying and giving birth to a child for another person or couple, you can help them experience the joys of parenthood that they may otherwise be unable to have.
The first step in becoming a surrogate is to have a heart-to-heart talk with your friend to make sure that they are on board with the idea. Once you have both agreed to move forward, you will need to find a reputable surrogacy agency. The agency will screen you and your friend to make sure that you are medically and emotionally fit to carry a child, and they will also help to match you with the intended parents.
Once you have been matched, you will undergo a series of medical procedures to prepare your body for the pregnancy. You will also need to be prepared for the emotional challenges that come with carrying a child for someone else. It is important to remember that you are not carrying this child for yourself, but for your friend, and you should focus on keeping them top of mind throughout the process.
After the baby is born, you will hand them over to their parents and say goodbye. It is normal to feel a sense of loss after the surrogacy process is complete, but know that you have done an amazing thing for your friend and their family. They will be forever grateful to you for your selfless act of love.
How do you know if you are medically eligible to be a surrogate?
There is no medical definition of surrogacy, so there is no one definitive answer to this question. However, in general, most surrogates are required to be in good physical and mental health, be between the ages of 21 and 45, have had at least one previous pregnancy, and have no history of complications during pregnancy or delivery. Some surrogacy agencies may have additional requirements, such as a minimum BMI or a maximum number of previous births. The best way to determine if you are eligible to be a surrogate is to contact a surrogacy agency or fertility clinic and inquire about their specific requirements.
How do you deal with the emotional challenges of surrogacy?
Many people who become surrogates report feeling a range of emotions during their surrogacy journeys. While some feel nothing but excitement and happiness throughout the process, others may feel more challenges emotionally. It is important to remember that there is no right or wrong way to feel during surrogacy, and that every surrogate experiences their own unique emotional journey.
For some surrogates, the emotional challenges may begin before they even start the process. They may worry about whether or not they will be able to handle carrying another person's child and the potential emotional bond that could form. They may also worry about the physical challenges of pregnancy and childbirth and whether their body will be able to handle it. Other surrogates may feel excitement and anticipation from the start, and only begin to feel challenges once they are actually pregnant.
Once a surrogate is pregnant, the emotional challenges can vary greatly. Some surrogates may feel very attached to the baby and find it hard to let go after birth. Others may struggle with the physical demands of pregnancy and feel uncomfortable or tired most of the time. And some surrogates may find themselves constantly worrying about the health of the baby and whether everything is progressing normally.
It is important to talk about any emotional challenges you are experiencing with your surrogacy team. They can offer support and guidance throughout your journey. There are also many online forums and support groups available for surrogates, which can be a great resource for finding others who understand what you are going through. Remember, you are not alone in this process and there are people who can help you through it.
Frequently Asked Questions
What are the requirements of surrogacy?
To be able to become a surrogate, you will need to have had a healthy pregnancy and delivered a healthy baby before. Additionally, you must be in good physical condition and emotionally capable of raising another person’s child. Finally, you must also have close family and social support available to help with the parenting responsibilities while you are away.
When can I become a surrogate mother?
Consider becoming a surrogate in consultation with your medical team as early as six to twelve months after your last vaginal or cesarean birth, depending on the health of both you and the surrogate.
How does American surrogacy protect me and my child?
American surrogacy requires all surrogates to undergo a rigorous screening process. This process includes a full medical exam, criminal background check, and pregnancy history review. In addition, we only work with trusted, highly-rated agencies who have extensive safety protocols in place. Our surrogates undergo regular medical exams and screenings, as well as regular communication with our agency and our surrogate parents.
Are You a good candidate for surrogacy?
Yes, if you meet the following basic surrogate qualifications.
What are the age restrictions for surrogacy?
The upper surrogate age limit of 38 helps limit health risks to the surrogate and baby.
